What are you confident about?

When we talk about being confident, it always in relation to a specific situation or a context. No one has no confidence in everything. Its always saying "I'm confident about _________" or "I am not confident about ____________". Fill in the blanks.

One definition for self-confidence is: "Confidence in oneself or one's own abilities"

Abilities again imply that it is in a specific context. For example, one person may be totally self confident about writing, but could be a nervous wreck when talking to someone.

So what are you confident about? - make a list of the things you are confident about. Normally we only think about the things that we are not confident about, that we are not in control of. If you were to make a list of all the things that you are confident about, and that you have to ability to do with a certain degree of certainess, then you can apply that same confidence to other areas of your life.

Make a list now. Include such things that you may take for granted as well. Here is a sample list or questionaire that can help you.

- Can you brush your teeth?
- Can you eat?
- Can you drink through a straw?
- Can you wear your clothes?
- Can you open a door?
- Can you put on your shoes?
- Can you tie your shoelaces?
- Can you write your name?
- Can you count up to 10?
- Can you walk without falling down?
- Can you smile?
- Can you pick up a glass of water?
- Can you read a page?
- Can you talk to yourself?
- Can you talk to others? (Think of people you are able to talk to, rather than the people you cannot hold a conversation with.)

Of course, you can add on all the little things that you can do, and that you can do confidently. Most people will be able to answer YES to all of the above questions. I can change the questions slightly by adding the following before each question: "Are you confident that you can " - so that the question becomes changed as follows:

- Can you brush your teeth?
becomes
- Are you confident that you can brush your teeth?

Now, I am pretty sure that most people are very confident that they can do all of the above tasks, and many many more. So you do have the ability to do those tasks.

So go ahead and make your list. You'll be amazed at all the things that you have confidence in.

You have the self-confidence to do the things that you are comfortable doing!